Monthly Archives: January 2015

Look How Beautiful It Is

“Look how beautiful it is outside” you say to your kids as you walk past the window and catch a glance of winter beauty.
Then it hits you and you remember you need to run to the store.
You think ‘its not gonna be that bad’ but as you take a longer look you start to realize that its 4 degrees with a frigid – whatever wind chill out there.
Next it hits you that there is at least an hours worth of shoveling and cleaning off then warming up the car.
Now you remember that you noticed the side door of your van is frozen shut three days ago and know it still is.
You will need to bundle your kids up in so many layers they will barely be able to move. Then those kids will have to monkey jump to the backseat leaving snow all over your seat. So by the time you even get to the store that snow will have melted leaving your ass wet for the walk around the store.
Now instead of just grabbing a few things you will stock up enough food to feed a small army as you surely wont want to do this again anytime soon. Don’t forget how fun it is to quickly pile all the groceries on the belt as your cashier starts to ring you up and your kids start to screw off and bicker between themselves. Next we get to find out how much you overspent. Giving you a giant feeling of regret and a short mini heart attack. Now it gets even more fun as you try to push that cart through a badly plowed slushy parking lot to your van to unload.
When you get back home the kids will have decided that they will need to play in the snow during the process of unloading the van. Then they will be absolutely seconds away from frostbite frozen which will quickly turn into a soaking wet ice cold mess as you get them in the house. They will most likely demand hot luxurious bubble baths and hot chocolate immediately.
Once you get that done you walk back to the million bags of groceries that now need separated and put away. Surely you are quite thrilled about digging around and playing a manual game of grocery Tetris in the freezer right?
Now you are near exhaustion, starving and the kids are yelling “when is dinner?” as you plop down to take your first sip of hot coffee and the feeling in your feet and fingers start to return. Its then that you realize that your ass is still soaking wet from the beautiful snow you sat on to and from the trip to the store.
But look how beautiful it is outside…….

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Family Meetings

Does your family have family meetings? We started doing it a few years ago and the kids really enjoy them. Our favorite meetings are usually held on my bed and anyone is allowed to call one at any given time. Everyone is allowed to speak freely during the meeting and we encourage that the children say exactly how they are feeling. It’s very important not to judge or discipline someone for something they may say during the meeting because it really is a great chance to hear and understand just how each family member is feeling on a regular basis. Use what is said to improve the dynamics of your family and how it works. Remind each other during the meetings that you are all on the same team and the goal is to reach a happy and healthy living environment. Parents prepare yourselves as you may be surprised by some of the things your child has to say. They have become so natural in our home that we look forward to someone shouting “Family Meeting” and we all quickly gather to see what’s going on. WE recently had one just a few nights ago as moving into our new home and all the holiday chaos that was going on I wanted to remind my kids that these meetings and there input are still an important part of our family. I was able to stress the fact that school would be starting back very soon and that I was expecting a better performance behaviorally from both of them. My son expressed that he is not so keen to hear me use a profanity on occasion and I myself will have to work on that. My daughter had us laughing as she took her turn. Her response to my question “What do you think I can do to be a better mom?” was “Well you are doing a really good job and I think that if you could let us celebrate Hanukkah that would make you a much better mom.” I proceeded to inform her about Hanukkah and let her know that we weren’t Jewish and it wouldn’t be right to celebrate a holiday that’s not actually ours. My guess was she was totally down for the daily gifts that would have been received. She is 6 and responded with “well my cousin is Jewish” I then had to explain that it still didn’t make us Jewish.
So think of a few questions and call a family meeting. These meetings should never only be focused on the things that others are doing wrong and I often start them with a few compliments of what improvements that each family member has made to set the tone as relaxed and then we ease into anything that may be bothering us about each other. Now obviously there are a few things that you may want to talk about privately with your spouse/significant other privately away from the children in order to keep your relationship on track. Remember to start off with a few things you enjoy about each other and ease into the things that might be bothering you or causing stress and ill will in your relationships.
At the end of the day we all need to be reminded that we are on the same team and relationships need constant work. If you forget to water your plants on a regular basis they die. Don’t kill your relationships with lack of communication.

Time For More Change

I’m the girl who makes New Year’s Resolutions and actually keeps them. I started this only 7yrs ago. Trust me I wasn’t always ‘that girl’
This year I have made several resolutions. I am going to be focusing my energies in different places this upcoming year. I have wasted an awful lot of time and energy in places it just didn’t belong.
My first resolution is to stop feeling so obligated to people who just don’t appreciate it. Along with that I am not going to allow myself to be upset that they get upset over it.
Next I have great family members that I have neglected for way to many years. Its time to get them back where they belong in my life. I finally feel like I’m someone they could be proud to call family.
We all know that I am probably one of the most honest people around. This year that honesty will reach a new level. I am tired of being uncomfortable in some of my life situations by not addressing issues that are ‘white elephants’ in the room.
I’m going to be a lot more frugal this year and am looking forward to teaching others to do the same. So all of you that tell me that you want to learn how to coupon here is your chance. Follow my blog. It will give you an email update to new posts and although I post it to Facebook and Twitter you just might be overlooking it or not have time at that moment to read it.
I’m quite organized but really want to take that to a new level and some of my fellow blogger friends I am watching and admiring your skills and will be taking lessons from you.
My tiny family will be my main focus as always and I will no longer feel beat up by those that think Autism is an excuse in my life. Its not an excuse its a lifestyle that I live in the best interest of my young children.
I’m very much looking forward to this year as I know it holds many Blessings for me and mine but I know these Blessings are things I have to work for. I don’t get to sit around and have them tossed down upon me.
Happy New Year I’m really hoping to share this year with so many of you and I wish nothing but the best for everyone. Now lets get it started!
My word and hashtag of 2015 is #Winning its about time I win this game of life and catch up to so many of you!