Messy people are toxic to your life. They come disguised as friends and sometimes even family.
We deal with them thinking we are obligated for any given reason.
I personally have decided to take a stance and stop letting them be messy in my life.
I choose to set goals for myself and my life on a regular basis. Once I reach a goal I set a new one. Not everyone wants change in their lives. I think that’s why they stay being messy.
Never in my life have I ever thought I am better than anyone. However I do know that I’m striving to reach higher levels in my life. I can’t do that by keeping anchors of messy people around. This doesn’t make me better than anyone. It simply means I’ve reached a new level in my life.
My main focus is always my children. I’m flooded with advocating, meetings, Psychiatric appts, therapy and then all the regular parenting stuff we all have to deal with in life. I often neglect myself in order to accomplish all of these things.
After a lot of thinking I have decided that if I barely have time for important things for myself I certainly don’t have time for messy people.
I am so thankful for the wonderful women (and men) that I do choose to surround myself with. These people are inspiring to me and throughout my sober journey they have really motivated me.
Im the only one who can change my life for the best. If I allow messy people to surround me then they will drag me down and stall my growth. I’ve worked way to hard in these last 8yrs to let anyone take me backwards or anchor me to where I am now. Which isn’t a bad place, but I know I have the potential and determination to reach a better place.
Messy people are just as bad as toxic people they just disguise it a little better.