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I’m Not Gonna Fight This Feeling Anymore 

I’m genuinely a caring person. If someone I care about is worried my natural instinct is to help them and try to ease the burden that they are carrying. This is why I can’t understand why anyone is going out of their way to be cruel to each other lately. I see a bunch of posts saying that I haven’t deleted any one for their political choice. Well I haven’t deleted anyone because of their political choice. I have however deleted quite a few people because of the things that they support and the things that they don’t. The divide amongst us is greater than anything I have ever seen before. It’s dark and very ugly. 

In advocating for my special needs child and other children and families feelings are very important. In fact “how do you feel about this” is said at almost every single meeting I attend. The last few years I have taken the big step of teaching my children to advocate for themselves which breaks down to expressing their feelings about almost any and every situation they find themselves in. As the caregiver to my son I will be the first to tell you that the hardest years were the years he couldn’t verbally communicate how he was feeling. So basically my entire life is based on feelings. Now being called names for having them and showing them is something I do not understand. 

Nothing has ever been accomplished in life by not doing something about it. I admire people who are passionate and instead of posting for likes on fb and Instagram go out and do something with that passion. 

The town next to mine is right now suffering from lead poisoning. That’s very scary to me as a parent and even just as a person. I have sympathy for the families that are suffering because of this situation. Clean water is very important. 

I already stated that my child has special needs. That sentence alone defines itself. My child’s needs are different from other children. When those needs are met my child flourishes. He is known to score higher educationally when his needs are met than an average child. This is very important to me and I’m very passionate about that. I have fought for almost 8yrs now to educate myself on his rights and I have never been known to be silent about these battles. In fact I get regular support from my friends and family. I am the first person to offer a helping hand to others in a similar situation.

I have many friends and family in the LGBTQ Community. Over the last several years I have watched my friends marry the people they love and many of them have families whose only difference from my own are the gender of the parents. Their families are not anything less than my own. In fact I see their children flourish more than a lot of children born to traditional families. I see the happiness of their children and the incredibly special and beautiful bonds that they have chosen to create in their households. I support that and I stand behind them. 

On Saturday January 21, 2017 I had the joy of witnessing over 3 million people in the United States and many more worldwide stand together united in a peaceful protest that is now known to be the largest ever recorded in our history. For myself and many others this was such a beautiful day. While many were there for different reasons some of which are directly related to the ones I listed above in this post. I support them. It has hurt my soul to see American citizens criticizing the Constitutional right of this March and the people who support it and participated in it. This March was a stand for basic human rights. If you woke up tomorrow and your water was poisened by lead it would be your right to do what it took to resolve the situation. I would support you and I would support your outrage. I would also support your Constitutional right to reach a resolution for your situation. 

This post isn’t about him or her or any choice you made in the polls in November. This post is about us, our families, and our friends and whether or not we can support each other and our rights to have things such as clean water, good educations for our children, and the right to have a family. If you are going to pick and choose what Constitutional rights others can exercise should I be choosing what rights you can exercise? 

So if you insist I will be this little snowflake, but you should know that when you put over 3 million of us together that is one heck of a snowball. 

KLEEM ORGANICS GIVEAWAY

I’ve recently made an entire lifestyle change. I never been one to wear makeup often. I feel it’s more important to take care of your skin than hide the problems. This has become one of my favorite products. I’m putting Vitamin C directly onto my face. You can honestly feel every inch of your face ‘wake up’ within a minute of applying this wonderful product. 

KLEEM is a professional Age Defying Vitamin C Serum. I use it every morning on my face and neck. It’s been a bit over a month since I started and I can honestly see the difference in my skin. I was starting  to get a a saggy patch on my neck, as I am getting older. I can honestly say that I don’t look my age. If I tell people my real age they don’t believe me. I’m not going to tell you all what it is, but you wouldn’t believe me either.

I’ve even had lifetime friends tell me you look different. It’s a good different and I can’t pinpoint it. I laugh and tell them what it is I’m using and have had a few try it from my bottle. Just to feel their skin ‘wake up’ It’s a feeling that’s hard to describe as I’ve never felt this from any other product in my lifetime. 

A good skincare routine is very important to your aging process and this is one I highly recommend. It’s not often you find a skincare product that does exactly what it says in the description.

Kleem will help you create vibrant youthful looking skin. My skin honestly looks better now than it did in my 20’s. Kleem is the most stable bio available form of Vitamin C formulated to minimize the appearance of signs of aging. This antioxidant-rich refreshing elixir, with no harsh chemicals combats rough texture, fatigue, puffiness, dull, and dis colored skin to yield a noticeable radiant, healthy look and more youthful looking skin. It’s ideal for all skin types. It doesn’t clog your pores and in my case I’m daily noticing the changes its made for me. Not to mention how velvety soft your skin feels afterward. 

Kleem has teamed up with me to give one lucky winner a chance to try a bottle for free. Now I have been using this product for over a month and my bottle is nowhere near empty. You really get your money’s worth with this product. It only takes one small pump to cover your entire face and neck. 

I would like to add in the fact that this product is working well with some scars I have on my face. It’s a great product for anyone who suffers from acne or any scars from previous acne. Not everyone has perfect skin and I haven’t had one breakout since I started using KLEEM. 

For anyone not wanting to wait or per chance you are interested but perhaps didn’t enter or win the contest KLEEM has  given me a promo code to allow you to use on Amazon for a discount of purchasing for $18 instead of the $34.99 regular price. 

$18 Coupon Offer

To enter for your chance to win a free bottle all you have to do is leave a comment on this post. Share it with your friends so they can have a chance themselves. 

Winner will be picked on July 15, 2016 

I encourage everyone to enter. I wish I was able to give everyone a bottle. I can’t say enough good things about this product. It’s definitely done a great job for my skin and fit perfectly into my lifestyle change as it contains natural and organic ingredients. 

Now for the legalities. The views and opinions expressed on this blog are my own. I only endorse products in which I believe in and these are my personal opinions based on my own trial of the product. I have been compensated and received free product in exchange for my opinion. 

Messy People

Messy people are toxic to your life. They come disguised as friends and sometimes even family. 

We deal with them thinking we are obligated for any given reason.

I personally have decided to take a stance and stop letting them be messy in my life. 

I choose to set goals for myself and my life on a regular basis. Once I reach a goal I set a new one. Not everyone wants change in their lives. I think that’s why they stay being messy. 

Never in my life have I ever thought I am better than anyone. However I do know that I’m striving to reach higher levels in my life. I can’t do that by keeping anchors of messy people around. This doesn’t make me better than anyone. It simply means I’ve reached a new level in my life. 

My main focus is always my children. I’m flooded with advocating, meetings, Psychiatric appts, therapy and then all the regular parenting stuff we all have to deal with in life. I often neglect myself in order to accomplish all of these things. 

After a lot of thinking I have decided that if I barely have time for important things for myself I certainly don’t have time for messy people.

I am so thankful for the wonderful women (and men) that I do choose to surround myself with. These people are inspiring to me and throughout my sober journey they have really motivated me. 

Im the only one who can change my life for the best. If I allow messy people to surround me then they will drag me down and stall my growth. I’ve worked way to hard in these last 8yrs to let anyone take me backwards or anchor me to where I am now. Which isn’t a bad place, but I know I have the potential and determination to reach a better place.

Messy people are just as bad as toxic people they just disguise it a little better. 

Hello #SilknSmooth Goodby Shaving

There is nothing like going to bed at night with freshly shaven legs. As a busy mom I always say one of my favorite things is fresh shaved legs and clean sheets. The reality is as a busy mom I don’t have time to shave everyday. Thankfully thanks to #SilknShave those days are almost over for me.

I’ve just finished my 4th treatment with my #SilknShave and although you may not see results until the recommended 6-8 treatments I’ve seen mine after the very first one. My hair is now growing back much slower and my shave time has decreased entirely. 

  
It’s so easy to use. After you shave your legs it takes about 20-30 minutes 

  
Well I have a promo code for you to use on the website

https://www.silkn.com

Use the promo code NOHAIR at checkout to get a great discount. The promo code expires on January 31, 2016

In my opinion this is a must have device. I’m looking forward to reaching my last treatments. This is a laser hair removal treatment that’s so easy and comfortable to do in your own home. 

Now for the legal stuff: I received this product for free and all opinions written here are my own.

Walpurgis Review

This is a video review by my 7yr old about Mezco Toyz Living DeadDolls Walpurgis

Langston literally prepared for this video in 5 mins of walking in the door from Back to School Night.

I will be hosting her a little more often as she seems to have wonderful Vlogger potential and hits all the plugs right on point.

overall my personal review for Walpurgis is a 10 star (we rate 1-10 here)

To see what Langston rates her you will need to click the following link

Note this blog has not been sponsored and she picked and purchased this doll with her own Summer money. She gave a special shoutout to Susan Zeidler as she hosted the resurrection IX contest that we won!

Teaching Acceptance of Choice

Last week I had an instant, a nano second, that I became so aware of the power of influence we as parents have on our children.

I knew that the words I was about to speak were going to have an effect on my child’s way of thinking for the rest of her life.

I felt my heart start to beat faster. I felt myself gasp. My mind raced so quickly.

It started off as a normal before bed routine. One child had fallen asleep and I had some one on one time with the other. We decided to watch a movie together. As the ending of the movie approached I walked out of the room to bring the remnants of our snacks and drinks to the kitchen. I took that opportunity to also use the restroom. When I walked back into the room I stopped and had a mini panic attack as I saw that the movie had ended and my child was staring at the Bravo Channel playing ‘I am Cait’

By now we all know the story of Bruce Jenner and his transition to Caitlyn Jenner but my 7yr old sure didn’t. There it was plastered on the big screen tv and my child was intensely watching and listening and to my shock interested in it. My eyes and ears quickly dart to the television to see and hear what she was.

Breathe I thought to myself at this moment.

It’s not provocative, it’s not a sex scene, no-one is naked or cursing. Ok now what?  I glance back to her and her eyes haven’t moved from the television. My mind is racing as fast as my heart and I’m confused as to what I need to do at this very moment. I sat down next to her where I was before I had left the room and I casually reached for the remote.

That’s when she looked over at me so innocently and asked “Mom is that a man or a woman?”

How do I explain this to my young child? I worry about a lot of things as a parent and this was one that had never crossed my mind.

I took a deep breath and I decided I was going to let my child help guide me through this. I was going to use my Conscious Parenting right now. I responded by asking her what she thought the answer was. She replied “She’s very pretty but I heard her say she was a man before”

I told her “yes the person you see as a pretty lady was born a boy and grew up to be a man.” I then began telling her about Bruce Jenner and his Olympic and life accomplishments. I noted to myself that she was showing pride in what he had accomplished. I really started to ease up inside as I now had to tell her why this Olympic Champion was wearing makeup, a dress, heels and looks like “a pretty lady”

I told her as a child he didn’t feel like a boy he felt like a girl on the inside. He was a good person and tried very hard to be a good man. He won in the Olympics, he got married, and he even had children but inside he felt like a girl no matter what he looked like on the outside I said he was sad about that on the inside. So now that his children are all grown up he decided to tell them and the entire world that he didn’t feel like a man he felt like a woman.

I then stopped and asked her how she felt about that. I had simply given her the facts and hadn’t offered a personal opinion. She was sympathetic towards his feelings and she said “maybe that’s like some people have a disability mom”

Once again I let her guide this conversation because I was learning from her that this wasn’t in any way about my feelings about the situation it needed to be about hers. I could offer her any opinion right now in this very moment and most likely it was going to influence her into feeling some type of way for the rest of her life. Right this minute my child was teaching me a very important parenting lesson. Hatred, Racism, Acceptance are all bred.

I was no longer having a mini panic attack inside I was feeling so proud of my parenting style and that I had given my child the  power of choice and that she had all on her own chosen acceptance.

They say to watch your words carefully around your children. In my personal opinion I think we all need to take more time and listen to the words and choices our children make.

At the end of our personal story my daughter chose to be proud of the accomplishments of Bruce Jenner and to be accepting of the feelings and choices of Caitlyn Jenner.

I’m going to follow my child’s lead a little more often~

Pampering In The Sun

Today it was 90° and a very clear sky with the brightest Sun ever. These are my favorite type of days.

As I lounged around by the Pool letting the kids swim I had a great idea.

The Chlorine from the pool destroys my hair so I thought this would be a great opportunity to try something different.

As I dodged in for cold drinks and snack I grabbed the bottle of EVOO (extra virgin olive oil) I had my hair braided up and began drenching it in olive oil.

I rubbed it deep into my scalp and stayed out there for a few hours.

When I came in I simply washed it out with a fancy replenishing hydrating conditioner and am incredibly happy with the results.

My hair is now dry and the softest it’s been all summer. I’m definitely going to be doing this again.

I wouldn’t recommend submerging your head in the pool with the oil on it but then again that’s what the hose is for.

Try it and I promise you won’t need a high priced hot oil treatment ever again. You can simply grab one from your kitchen.

Here’s to soft hair everywhere~

Self Serve Snack Station

Let’s face it we are all busy. It doesn’t matter if you are a Stay at Home Mom, Work at Home Mom, Work Outside the Home Mom we Moms are all very busy and that minute we actually sit down to relax you can bet that there will be a child who “just needs a snack” Sometimes it’s even during the most inconvenient times like when you are elbows deep into mixing a bowl of meatballs or scrubbing the bathroom down. That snack demands everything to your child at that moment and we moms think to ourselves ‘do these kids ever stop eating?’

I’ve been using Self Serve Snack Stations for a little over a year now and I definitely recommend them for every mom.

Considering the fact that a bunch of open bags are just so messy looking and that the food inside usually gets stale really quickly I invested into some air tight containers. I was able to find some at a local big name store within my budget and they come in different sizes that are stackable. Since we are an Autism household they needed to be easy to open and close.

I try my best to stay on the healthy side but I honestly include some kind of chips in at least one container. In the near future I am hoping to add a few containers of dehydrated fruits. I do keep a nice bowl of fruit on the table and often catch them snacking out of it as well.

This has freed up a lot of time personally for me and when I get the chance to sit down with a hot cup of coffee I no longer hear “Mom I need a snack right now”

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My Shark Encounter

As a busy stay at home mom who really enjoys my regular household chores I noticed the only thing I wasn’t taking pride in were my floors. It seemed no matter how many times I would vacuum they always still felt and looked dirty to me. After reading a bunch of reviews on high priced vacuum cleaners I made the decision that it was time to quit buying a new cheap vacuum every year and instead invest more into a vacuum cleaner.

I went against all the reviews I read and purchased a Shark Rotator.

http://www.sharkclean.com/rotator/

Right away I noticed the difference and was very pleased with my choice. Being able to visually see the difference in not just my carpets but my bare floors as well I felt like I had made a great choice. It made me happy to grab the vacuum daily and clean. The rotator honestly made it much quicker to do than any previous vacuum I had ever owned.

Then one day I noticed that my vacuum wasn’t working as it previously had. Since I go out of my way to take great care of everything I own I naturally went over every inch of my Shark to figure out what exactly the problem was. Once I found it I knew it was not a problem that I created. I was aware that my store return window had ended and thought I should reach out to the company itself.

When I sent the first email I quickly got a response. I was able to work with someone from the company and found that they were very sympathetic about the issue. I was very happy to find that this company really stood behind their product and we began a return process. I was sent a new vacuum cleaner right away. They were so genuine that they wanted to know what was causing the issue and they took the original purchase back to find out why this happened and to prevent it from happening to future models.

I was sent a different model Shark Rotator and I was even more impressed with this vacuum cleaner than I was with my original purchasing of it. Before writing this I cleaned every inch of every room in my home and the furniture as well. This vacuum cleaner does not disappoint. I was able to quickly attach all the attachments and to use it on all my many different texture carpets and bare floors with very pleasant results well as so much ease.

I would highly recommend the Shark Rotator to all of my friends and family for their next vacuum purchase. I’ve been through many vacuum cleaners in my lifetime and to date Shark Rotator is the best one I’ve ever used.

Father’s Day 2015

We are quickly approaching Father’s Day 2015

I understand that not everyone has a Father in their life.

Yes there are many single mothers out there raising children and some are not by choice.

I can already forsee the posts that will be coming. Mother’s Day was last month and ladies that was your day.
Please don’t use this Father’s Day to congratulate each other, bash the fathers that you chose for your children, or just be an ugly person.

Whether you allow the Father of your children in their life or not is a choice some of you have made. Take into consideration this Father’s Day that many children will be waking up and mourning the loss of a father or missing one that is off serving our Country.

If you happen to be someone who’s child/children will not be having a Father around to celebrate then instead maybe take a step back and celebrate someone who is in the life of your child/children who shows a positive role as Father. This person can be a relative, a friend, or a neighbor.

I don’t think its so fair to put all the focus on a biological Father when we have so many others around us and in our lives that show our children and help mold our children into the adults that they will someday become.

Good men become good fathers. Celebrate all the good men in your lives and the lives of your children.

To my son’s friends father “Happy Father’s Day. Thank you for showing my son that dads are cool. Thanks for the attention you show my children when they are visiting in your home. I honestly enjoy listening to them mention you as they chat amongst each other.”

To my Uncle “Happy Father’s Day! Thank you for being that one man throughout my life who was and still is always there and for showing me as I grew up the family scenario I knew I wanted for myself.”

To my Uncle & Grandfather who have passed away “Thank you for showing me at an early age what defines a Father and exactly what and how important his role in a family really is.”

To my children’s Grandfather “Thank you for raising a son with morals and values and for raising him to be such a wonderful father he himself can be when given the opportunity. Thank you for all you continue to do in the lives of your son and our children.”

As far as the Father’s of my children go “Happy Father’s Day to my older daughter’s father. Thank you for being there for our daughter. Thank you for the huge part you have had in raising our wonderful daughter.”

Now the special thanks goes out to the father of my little ones “Thank you for being such a superhero dad to our kids. Thank you for every single thing you do for them. Thank you for the unconditional love and devotion that you have for them. Thank you for showing me that there are incredible men out there that are so dedicated to raising a family.”